Vulnerability Comes From Strength Not Weakness
When i was a kid my mom always told me not to share our family or my own weaknesses and problems to outsider, it is a disgrace, she said. Later did i know the problem that rises from that “advice” my mom told me back then was a psychological problem that i carry until now, no one knows me and understands me because i have never told people anything about my life, and yes even my parents.
Growing up i was that little boy that had no courage to talk to people, and whenever i had friends, no one had ever told me their stories and as a consequences to those instances, i also did tell them nothing about me. Our friendships were shallow, we laughed at each other’s jokes but no one had ever see me broke down.
But things changed when 2016 i met a new circle of friends that are very vulnerable with their life, they share stories, they hug, they laugh and cry together with one another. The first time i met them, i was blown away because i had no friends like them growing up. They opened up their stories, their problems their darkest secrets and worse of all, they shared it to me as well, a stranger, a new comer.
“ Come as stranger, Stay as a family “
Now i believe that vulnerability doesn’t come from a place of weakness but in contrary, it comes from a stronger place, a bigger place than your hiding place.
People that can share their life stories, their deepest secrets are no weak people, they are the “ Mighty Warrior “ of today’s era. They know how to be broken, to be happy and to be healed.
In today’s era where almost everything is fabricated, your Instagram posts, your daily breakfast, your “ I woke up like this “, being genuine and vulnerable is a privilege that not many can experience, telling stories, struggles, weakness and tears takes courage and there are not many would do.
People might ask what’s the point of being vulnerable if judgement is coming right after your stories? The problem is that people are a creature of reciprocity, the fact that we share our stories, meaning we give something to them, people are willing to share their stories as well and that’s where stories and life got connected, one life with another life, one story with another story.
I have hundreds of vulnerable stories that have been shared with me and the same goes with me sharing hundreds stories of mine.
Never ever in my life that I felt stronger, happier, and more alive in my whole lifetime. The fact that i can put down all the burdens that i have and share it with other people makes the burden seems weaker and more manageable to be lifted.
